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Mary J. Blige: 'Marriage fell apart over lack of respect'

Published 16/11/2016

Mary J. Blige
Mary J. Blige

The star has found it "cathartic" to hit the stage with Maxwell each night as she battles her estranged husband in court.

R&B icon Mary J. Blige had to move on from her fractured marriage when her husband Kendu Isaacs allegedly stopped respecting her.

The No More Drama hitmaker filed legal papers to end her 12-year marriage in July (16), and the estranged couple has been fighting over his request for almost $130,000 (£104,000)-a-month in spousal support ever since.

Mary recently admitted the Kendu she married is a completely different person to the man she is now battling in court, telling U.K. talk show Loose Women earlier this month (Nov16), "Not even knowing someone that you thought you knew for years is horrible."

Now she has opened up further about the marriage breakdown in an emotional chat on U.S. breakfast show Good Morning America, revealing she no longer felt respected in the relationship.

"The breaking point was when I kept asking over and over again for respect, and to be respected, and it just seemed like I was beating a dead horse and it seemed like I was talking to a wall," she explained. "I just wasn't getting it (respect) back.

"So if I can't get respect in the relationship, I have to move on to save myself. That was the point where I was like, 'I'm done, I just can't do it anymore.'"

Mary has turned to her faith, her loved ones, and her fans for support during the tough time, while also finding happiness in self-love.

"What is getting me through is God, is prayer, is my family, people that love me, my fans," she shared. "Just me being healthy, and me loving myself the way I do, taking care of myself, and just getting that self awareness that has put me in a place where I can see things clearly. This is what's getting me through."

The singer is currently on a joint tour with Maxwell and getting out onstage each night has served as a form of therapy for the superstar.

"It's been so cathartic for me, so healthy for me, because this is where I bring all my pain; I bring it to the stage," the 45-year-old said. "I bring everything and my fans are there, they come to the shows with all their issues, their trials and tribulations, and this is where we heal and, you know, we're getting better.

"They leave the building feeling great and I go get on my bus feeling better than I did before I got onstage, so it's definitely a place where we heal together and we grow."

And Mary is refusing to let the heartbreak bring her down, as it has so often in her past.

She concluded, "I have to stay strong and I have to be the strength for myself. I had to save myself, and I'm saving myself now."

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