Having confidence to believe that you are good enough
I'm about to tell you something that's very controversial so I want you to read this carefully: You... Are... Good... Enough. I know many of you don't believe it. Objections may come up when you read those words. But, you're good enough.
Now, don't get me wrong. You may not be a good enough film director to win an Oscar. You're probably not a good enough tennis player to crush Andy Murray. But you are good enough to at least take a small step in the direction that you want to go.
See, I've found that the human mind is infected with what the writer Colin Wilson once called "a mind parasite". It's an insidious little bug and affects nearly everyone that I've ever worked with, including myself. It's the belief that deep down, in some context, one is simply not good enough: not smart enough, tall enough, rich enough, strong enough, pretty enough, thin enough, etc. They're all variations of the same belief.
Positive thinking gurus like to get us jumping up and down, punching the air and shouting: "Yes! I'm a god/goddess!" It's easy to get someone pumped up in the moment. But that degree of energy is difficult to maintain. I'd much rather work with a quiet, sustainable base of confidence and self-acceptance.
So if there's something challenging you need to do, break it down into micro-steps and tell yourself: "I'm good enough to do this small thing." Is there a job interview you've been dreading? A public speaking engagement? You may not have the charm of George Clooney, but you're good enough to at least show up. You're good enough to shake hands; good enough to smile and say hello.
Last week I taught you how to eliminate an old belief that's no longer serving you. Now I'm suggesting a new belief to replace it with, one that you'll find easy to accept because it's so self-evidently true.
And because people don't reject what they know to be true, for the rest of the summer, let this new belief be your mantra. You're good enough to give it a try.
- Joseph Pond is a clinical hypnotherapist, an acupuncturist, and a mindfulness instructor. He is co-founder of Hypnosis Explorers NI and conducts workshops in hypnosis with PowerTrance. Reach him at firstname.lastname@example.org or at https://www.facebook.com/ Belfast Hypnosis/?ref=hl/?ref=hl