A baby will ruin daughter’s life
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, I have a 16-year-old daughter who is ten weeks pregnant.
We’ve told her to have an abortion but she said the guilt of killing a baby would be too much and she’s keeping it.
This has devastated my wife, especially because our daughter is a top student and we thought she was going on to great things.
How can we convince her to not to go ahead with the pregnancy?
Dear Disappointed Father,
Your apprehensiveness about your daughter’s future is quite understandable but although you don’t agree with her decision, it’s important that you both do everything you can to support her through what will undoubtedly be a challenging time in her life.
Attempting to force her into having an abortion definitely isn’t the way forward, especially if she relents, only to regret it for the rest of her life.
Any guilt, resentment, and anger would most likely be directed towards you both and your relationship with her might be irretrievably damaged.
It may seem unlikely to you at present, but often unplanned pregnancies have an unbelievably positive effect upon a young parent’s motivation.
In such cases, they become even more determined to build successful careers in order to ensure a better life for their child.