Belfast Telegraph

Friday 29 August 2014

Am I just her companion?

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

For the past two years I’ve been going out with a woman who lives about 40 miles away.

She stays at my house sometimes and we’ve been on holiday together, but it’s always in separate bedrooms and we’ve never slept together.

I’m never invited to stay at her house, although I’ve visited her there and she has an open invitation to mine.

I’m beginning to think that she really doesn’t want me around and I’m nothing more than a companion.

Should I call a halt to this relationship? DR

FIONA SAYS: TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL

It’s possible that you may be looking for more in this relationship than she is, but the only way to find out is to have a talk about things.

She seems quite content for you to get together for social contact but no more. That could be because she’s waiting for you to suggest taking things further.

You need to discuss where you both see this relationship heading and what you want out of it.

Try to be open and honest and if a sexual relationship is what you want and she is unwilling to go down that route, then perhaps you should look elsewhere. Perhaps you could still be friends, though, as there is a lot to be said for companionship.

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