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Boyfriend wants to get married, but I’m not sure

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

I've been going out with a really great guy for the past two years and he’s now talking about marriage.

I’ve got a good job, great friends and a lifestyle I really enjoy.

Being married means settling down and the problem is, as much as I like him, I'm not sure I'm ready to do that yet.

My girlfriends and I were planning to go on holiday together this summer and he's already getting upset at the idea of me going away without him.

What should I do? BS

FIONA SAYS: IT'S TIME FOR 'THE TALK'

Generally speaking, anyone who has doubts about getting married shouldn't do it. However, I do wonder about your idea of marriage and whether it's the same as his.

Why should your lifestyle and activities stop just because you get married?

You'll probably spend more time together, but you don't have to live in each other's shoes.

Yes, some couples do everything together, but some of the closest couples have absolutely nothing in common and do all kinds of things apart!

You and your boyfriend need to talk and see what each other's expectations of marriage are.

It could be he's upset about your holiday plans because your rejection of his proposal makes him think you don't care about him.

If that's not true, then you need to reassure him — another good reason for that talk.

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