Belfast Telegraph

Friday 25 July 2014

Cousin makes advances at me when he visits

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

I’m 14 years old and I want to know how to deal with a problem before it gets any worse.

My cousin is due to come and stay with my family later this year.

The last time he visited he made it clear that he fancied me and he was always pestering me, but I’m not interested in him.

He’s several years older than me and once, when he tried to kiss me, we had a fight and I scratched his face.

I didn’t want to tell my parents because it would cause a family upset, but now they’ve decided he’s going to come back again, I’m very worried.

He made my life miserable last time and I don’t want to go through that again. HB

FIONA SAYS: TELL YOUR PARENTS

Your cousin's behaviour is appalling, so don't feel at all bad about telling your parents. Explain what happened and you should mention his scratched face, too.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, unlike your cousin, so don't feel bad about this.

If you do find it difficult, though, perhaps you could ask a relative that you trust to help you.

Finally, if you need to talk, don't forget you can call Childline on 0800 11 11. Its counsellors can support you in putting a stop to your cousin's behaviour.

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