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How can I keep my fantasies in check?

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

Published 18/04/2013

 One of my colleagues is extremely attractive and popular with everyone.

He's happily married and he and his wife are expecting their first child.

I'm very happily married too but, for some reason, I keep having sexual fantasies about him – and it's worrying me.

There's no way I want to make this a reality but I can't seem to stop the fantasies and just wish they would go away.

Should I change my job? NB


Changing your job wouldn't stop the fantasy – in fact, without the reality in front of you, the images might become even more imaginative.

Most people fantasise from time to time – usually it's about someone famous, an actor or musician, for example.

Such imaginings are generally harmless (unless they become obsessive).

You know you don't want to act on the fantasies with your colleague, so trust yourself to act sensibly and focus on your relationship with your partner.


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