I love my baby but I want my old life back
Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem
I was thrilled to bits when I had a baby four months ago, but now I’m beginning to think it’s all been a terrible mistake. Everything revolves around my daughter and I seem to have forgotten how to enjoy myself.
As much as I love her, I’ve no energy, feel very low and have the most terrible mood swings. My poor partner has no idea how I’ll be when he gets home. His patience is beginning to crack.
I wish I could go back to my old life. FS
FIONA SAYS: YOU DON’T HAVE TO STRUGGLE ALONE
Babies are hugely demanding and make vast changes to your life, but have you considered the possibility of post-natal illness (PNI)?
You’ve gone through huge emotional and physical changes and you’re probably feeling overwhelmed by it all.
The chances are that this is your hormones at work and you need to talk to your GP about it.
You can also contact the Association for Post-Natal Illness (pni.org.uk).
It’s run by sufferers and survivors of PNI and there is an online forum as well as a website you can turn to.
If it turns out that you don’t have PNI, give yourself time to adjust and then consider going back to part-time work to get you out and about among other adults again.