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I love my hubby, but think about other women

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

When I was 14 I fell in love with another girl who was a few years older than me at my school. The relationship was very passionate and we only separated because we were both afraid about people finding out about us.

I am now in my thirties, happily married to a fabulous husband and we have three children. From time to time, though, I can’t help but wonder what might happen if I met another woman and felt as strongly for her as I felt for my first love.

Am I gay, even though I love my husband so much, and is it wrong of me to think this way? MC

FIONA SAYS: YOUR LOVE ISN’T VULNERABLE

You were very young when you had your first serious love affair and you were probably quite vulnerable.

You fell for another young woman and kept the relationship a secret. We all retain strong memories of our first love and the secrecy probably makes your memories of it more intense.

That could be why the memories and feelings have lingered for so long.

It wasn't wrong to love someone else and it doesn't mean that your love for your husband is vulnerable because of it.

At some point in your life you chose a way to go and decided who you wanted to be. Your choice was to marry your husband and have his children and memories don't mean you will want to change your feelings.

As long as you love your husband and want to be with him, then there is no reason to think you will want to change that or put your marriage at risk

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