I treated grandkids so badly
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona answers your problems
Dear Fiona, I’m 66, divorced and living alone in a little bedsit of my own.
My daughter-in-law recently brought my grandchildren to visit and I got in such a bad mood with them that I now feel terrible.
I just couldn’t cope with their noise and the pressure of having them running around in such a small space.
I ended up shouting at the boys and refused to say goodbye to them when they left.
In the past I have had a breakdown and I still miss my husband terribly even though he left me for a younger woman. However, if I let my behaviour get out of control like that again I’m sure my daughter-in-law will refuse to bring the boys to visit me.
Try not to feel too badly about this. Two young boys would inevitably get fractious and loud from being cooped up in a bedsit or other small space they weren’t used to.
Call your daughter-in-law and apologise for losing your temper but suggest that next time, rather than try to contain them in a small space, you all go out. As for your own loneliness, why not tackle this too?
Voluntary work at a local hospital or hospice would bring you into contact with others or you could give a few hours each week at a local charity shop.