I’m married with two great kids and my husband is a lovely man, but I seem to have a destructive streak and can’t help having affairs.
I had my first one on my honeymoon and I know my behaviour would shock most people, but I can’t help it and don’t even feel guilty.
Even when one relationship got out of hand and my husband found out, he forgave me — and it hasn’t stopped me since.
I’d like to change but I don’t know how — it feels like an addiction. LG
FIONA SAYS: SEEK COUNSELLING TO RESOLVE THE PAST
Something has happened to you in your past that makes you value excitement rather than loyalty and a warm, loving relationship.
You are jeopardising your family in all kinds of ways — you risk your health and that of your husband and you also risk the happiness of your children.
You have to get to the bottom of these feelings and I suggest the best way of doing this is to undergo some fairly extensive counselling.
Contact Relate (relate.org.uk) as soon as you can.
There is no reason why you can’t have passion and excitement in your relationship with your husband, if you’re prepared to work at it.