i’m afraid of being hurt by hot male colleague
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, I have just come out of a long-term relationship and friends tell me I’m still attractive.
I’ve been on several dates but none compare to a guy I like at work. He has a very responsible job, as have I, and he is tall, handsome and charming. My friends say he likes me too.
Women in work are constantly fawning over him but he doesn’t seem to be a jack-the-lad type. We’ve had long talks and he has asked me out for a meal. I don’t want to be hurt again but I believe in the concept of a soulmate so should I accept?
Dear Confused Co-Worker,
I think you’re right to approach this with caution, the main concern being whether you should enter into a romantic relationship with someone at work.
Is it wise to mix business with pleasure? What happens if things turn bad? Are you happy to be the subject of office gossip and potentially the object of jealousy by co-workers?
It’s tempting to romanticise someone when we don’t really know their true character. However, if you weigh things up and decide to proceed, please manage your expectations. Just go to dinner with the idea of having a great time. Let the relationship develop at a gentle pace.