I’m unhappy with our love life
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Published 20/12/2012 | 11:24
My husband and I have been together for six years. He is not very interested in love-making and when I try to talk to him about it, he says there’s nothing wrong.
We only make love about once a month, which he says is fine, but for me it’s not. It only happens if he’s had a drink.
I really love this man, but sometimes I feel we are living together more like flatmates than husband and wife. What can I do to make him more interested? NS
FIONA SAYS: BE HONEST WITH HIM
Compromise is generally the answer, but in your case I am concerned to read that he only makes love to you after a drink.
I think this may indicate that anxiety or tension of some kind may be holding him back.
If he has been like this for as long as you've been together then he won't change easily.
Tell him that you feel unhappy and dissatisfied with your love life. Don't wait for him to make the first move. Do the asking and see if he responds.