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My flatmate fancies me

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

Published 06/09/2012

My friend and I rented a flat together and invited a man we know to come and share with us to help with the rent. We don’t see him that much as we all work but when we do see him, he’s started to drop hints that he’d like a relationship with me.

I am not in the least bit interested, but it feels really awkward.

I don’t want to move out, but what should I do? JA


Legally, it will depend very much on the tenancy agreement you have with this man, but hopefully it won’t come to that.

Tell him that you have no interest in a relationship with him and then, if he persists, ask him to leave.

You and your friend found the flat first, so why should you move out?

If he goes and you decide to find a new tenant, it might be better to find someone you know — perhaps another girl — to avoid anything like this happening again.

Contact Citizens Advice ( for advice if he doesn’t want to go voluntarily.

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