Belfast Telegraph

Tuesday 21 October 2014

My friend is so bitter after marriage ended

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

My friend became very angry when her marriage broke up two years ago.

It’s been going on for so long now but she’s still very bitter about it, and she is making it very hard for all of her friends.

She tries to make us side with her and plays us off against each other if she thinks we’re not being supportive enough.

I’m getting to the point where I don’t want to speak to her! PA

FIONA SAYS: SUPPORT HER

Sadly, her anger towards her husband is changing her as a person and making her very bitter and not the friend you knew.

She probably doesn't trust anyone at the moment because her faith in relationships has been shattered.

If you abandon her while she's like this, it will only make her more entrenched in her views, so try to find time for her, even if it's difficult.

Try to steer her towards counselling help — The British Psychological Society (bps.org.uk) or the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (bacp.co.uk) could both help her to find a therapist.

She's like a wounded animal at present, lashing out at those close to her, so encourage her to seek professional help before she poisons all her relationships.

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