My man’s hat fetish has me freaked
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, My boyfriend and I have only been together for a month and we started having sex a week ago but last night he freaked me out.
He said he finds women wearing sports caps sexually arousing and so would like me to wear one when we’re having sex.
I thought he was joking and started laughing but he stormed out. I’m worried now he’ll finish with me as I really like him but is he a pervert?
A fetish exists when an object not normally considered erotic is regarded as sexually arousing. We don’t know exactly when or why such fetishes develop although many originate earlier in life, but I definitely wouldn’t class him as a ‘pervert’.
However, it’s important to consider how you personally feel and whether you believe his request to be distasteful enough to be a deal-breaker.
The fact that you’re worried he’s going to finish with you is evidence enough that you’re not completely turned off and so your relationship may have a future.
Whatever your decision on the sports cap, try to be sensitive about it and reassure him you weren’t trying to humiliate him.