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Should I ask out my married ex?

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

Published 04/04/2013

I recently met one of my ex-boyfriends in the street.

He got married a few months ago. When we were together, he was really boring, so I dumped him.

He seems to have got himself together now and is a lot more attractive.

Do you think I should try to get him to go out with me again? KN


What possible reason would he have for seeing someone who'd previously dumped him for being boring? He's got his life together, got married and is now presumably with someone he loves.

Why would he want to risk ruining that by going out with a girl who dumped him once before?

If you're the sort of person who only fancies people when they're unavailable, then you're in for a very unhappy future.

If that sounds harsh, I'm sorry, but he's moved on — and so should you.

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