Belfast Telegraph

Saturday 26 July 2014

Woes over pregnancy secret

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

I’m 17 years old and I’m pregnant.

I’m ok with this but my boyfriend is terrified that his parents are going to find out.

He’s 18 years old and he wants us to keep it a secret for as long as possible, so he can break the news to them gently.

I expect my parents will be cross too, but I don’t like the idea of keeping things secret, especially as we plan to keep the baby.

I suggested that we ought to come clean and my boyfriend got really angry, saying we should be loyal to each other, not to our parents.

Now I feel hurt and confused and I am not sure what to do. CM

FIONA SAYS: FACE YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES

I think your first concerns should be for your own health and for that of your baby, so you certainly need to get medical attention — and soon.

If you are going to need your parents' support (and I suspect you will, as you've got an adult boyfriend who is still intimidated by his parents), then tell them.

They may well be shocked or even angry at first, but this will pass.

It sounds as if your boyfriend is trying to hide from his responsibilities; perhaps he's secretly hoping the ‘problem’ will go away.

He needs to face up to the fact that it won't, so try pointing out that he should be putting the health of his child above hurting the feelings of his parents.

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