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Maybe it's time we let go of our bitter past

Published 25/11/2013

I WARMLY commend the Attorney General, John Larkin, on his proposal for dealing with the past. He has articulated what I have been thinking for a very long time.

Our son, Adam, was just 19 when he was shot dead by the UDA while on work experience at a building site in west Belfast in November 1987.

Perhaps now is the time to stop looking back in anger and let history judge the last 40 years. Everyone seems to be looking for justice, but can there be such a thing?

For the taking of an innocent life in cold blood, perhaps it is not justice which is required.

Some people are unable to let go of their grief.

They cling to it year after year as they get older and life passes them by.

The only thing we can do is accept with sadness that our loved one has gone and that all the jumping up and down in the world will not bring them back.

Life is a lottery and we will never know why some lose and others don't. It is one of the great mysteries of life.

I know there will be many who disagree with me and we must never be judgmental of those who have lost.

I also know that our lovely Adam would have wanted us to put the past behind us and to move on and enjoy life for the few remaining years that we have left.

Time is a great healer and, for me, life is still sweet at the age of 81.


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