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Bruised meninists are trying to silence women

By Vicky Chandler

Published 30/05/2015

Vicky Chandler
Vicky Chandler

If there's one thing you count on when you write about feminism and gender issues, it's that someone on the internet will pop up to say "but not all men are bad". And now there is an actual campaign to promote this oh-so-clever observation.

The #BlameOneNotAll campaign, created by Indian media company Mintified, asks women to have their pictures taken holding signs thanking their uncles for not being pervy, or their cab driver for not touching them up, to highlight the fact that "not all men are rapists".

Instead, what the campaign does is vilify the women speaking out about their experiences of sexism and patronise the men standing proudly on the side of gender equality.

It's just another example of "Meninists" trying to silence women because what they have to say has bruised their ego.

#BlameOneNotAll is an attempt at concentrating on each individual's actions, rather than critiquing a social structure that has forced millions of girls and women around the world to be subjected to systematic sexism, sexual violence and abuse.

By saying "not all", we're allowing many to excuse themselves from a situation they claim isn't their problem.

Of course, there are many good men, but do they need to be constantly reminded? We don't need to hand out certificates to congratulate them; the men in the world who love and respect women don't do it so they can be commended for simply being a decent human being.

The good guys don't need awarding for making a woman feel comfortable. It's tiring to have to revisit this situation again, having to defend a woman's right to speak out about their experiences. I didn't realise women were required to catch the names of all the men that have sexually assaulted, harassed, or raped them, to make sure they are the only ones in the line of fire.

I didn't know I was supposed to ring up all my guy friends and say, "Oh, by the way I don't mean you" when tweeting about my experiences of sexism.

If the supporters of the #BlameOneNotAll and #NotAllMen campaigns actually focused on changing the system that props them up, think of the progress that could be made. If these men were really worried about people thinking them rapists, they would be addressing the behaviours of their fellow men - not attacking the brave women retelling their experiences of sexism and abuse.

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