Why superwoman Gwyneth Paltrow is enjoying good life right now
As her new film, Iron Man 3, hits the cinemas this week, Gwyneth Paltrow talks to Susan Griffin about combining motherhood, an acting career and running her business empire
Gwyneth Paltrow was recently hailed 'most hated celebrity in Hollywood', beating the likes of Anne Hathaway and Kristen Stewart to the dubious title.
The accolade, if you can call it that, does seem a little harsh given that (bar the tearful Oscar acceptance speech way back in 1999 and a rumoured desire for depriving her children of carbs) the girl has done nothing to warrant such animosity.
Perhaps it's her predisposition to do annoyingly well at anything she turns her hand to.
There are the indie films (Sliding Doors, The Royal Tenenbaums, Sylvia), the singing (Glee, Country Strong), the lifestyle website Goop and subsequent cook books and the news that she's set to star opposite Antonio Banderas in the Spanish film 33 Dias. She is of course fluent.
All this and she still manages to boast a gym-honed body and the picture-perfect family in the shape of Coldplay's Chris Martin and their two children Apple (8) and seven-year-old Moses.
You just don't want to like Paltrow – but then you come face to face with the Hollywood actress and she seems really rather sweet, nervous even.
She might not relish interviews but needs must when there's a movie of mega proportions such as Iron Man 3 to promote.
In this third instalment of the franchise, she returns as redhead Pepper Potts opposite Robert Downey Jr's billionaire-inventor-superhero Tony Stark, aka Iron Man.
She hadn't even heard of Marvel's Iron Man until the actor Jon Favreau approached her with the idea in 2007.
"I'd taken a few years off and was at home having kids, and there was no script so I was really flying blind," recalls the actress, who divides her time between London and the States.
"I didn't know anything about comics or the movie we were going to do but Robert and Jon talked me into doing it."
She admits she'd never thought of herself starring in a comic book superhero movie "and now I'm so glad it's been my main job for the last six years".
"There's a lot of comfort between them now, so it's not the kind of tentative relationship they had in the first two films," says Paltrow, who's understandably grown close to Downey Jr over the last six years. "Robert and I have always had a really great working relationship and it's nice to phase it into something new," she says, before adding: "Robert definitely keeps you on your toes."
You sense Paltrow's no walkover and she jokingly berates her co-star for moaning about the Iron Man costume. "Robert used to complain about it all the time but let me just tell you he is a wuss because it's very easy to wear," says the actress, who also dons the iconic suit this time round.
"I really liked being in it. It felt very superhero-ish, very strong," she says, laughing.
In the flesh, she's as you'd expect, all glowing skin, barely there make-up and poker straight blonde hair. It's incredible to think she turned 40 in September.
"When I was 39 I was freaking out about it but when I woke up on my birthday I was like, 'Oh this is fine, yeah I like this,"' she says, smiling. "I felt empowered by everything that I'd achieved and I have two healthy children."
It doesn't hurt that she's in such good shape, and she gets to show off her washboard stomach in the movie.
A devotee of personal trainer Tracy Anderson, who she met through Madonna (before the actress and singer fell out), did she feel the urge to take her training up a notch in preparation?
"The real answer to that is no," she admits. "I work out all the time and my trainer's really strict with me and I'm very disciplined about it."
The daughter of the late producer Bruce Paltrow and actress Blythe Danner, Paltrow was 19 when she made her screen debut alongside John Travolta in Shout.
But it was a role in Se7en four years later, and her ensuing relationship with co-star Brad Pitt that propelled her to stardom.
While she and Martin are notoriously private, her 'celebrity' was key to the 2008 launch of Goop, a website 'to share all of life's positives' as it states on its homepage. It was met with the sort of eye-rolling saved solely for celebrity-endorsed projects, but Paltrow has proven the naysayers wrong.
"I was really just doing it for fun and to share information. I really didn't know that it would end up having so many subscribers and such a big audience. It's really thrilling for me," says Paltrow.
"I love women and I love to create a community for women and it's been such a rewarding experience to do it."
In recent years, Paltrow has spent less time on the big screen but she isn't tempted to give up acting to focus solely on a business empire.
"You know, I really like the balance I have now in finding one really interesting film a year to do around the family schedule and my business life," she says.
"I don't think I'd ever want to give up acting to only do business but I'm very stimulated by my website."
Looking ahead to "the second half of my life", she hopes to continue this comfortable pace.
"I'm really happy at home, so I've got to find things where I'm really going to learn something or push myself to the edge of my capabilities."
And really, that's no reason to be criticised.