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Six top tips for new parents from coach Isobel Mary Champion


A mother struggling to cope with her newborn

A mother struggling to cope with her newborn

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A mother struggling to cope with her newborn

To bring some light into the unknown for first-time parents, Parenting Coach, Isobel Mary Champion has teamed up with life insurance broker, Reassured, to provide six top tips for first time parents.

1. Accept all those offers for help

The fourth trimester is real, and you will need all the help you can get. Don’t be shy, swallow your pride, and accept all offers to help with housework, cooking, laundry, and holding the baby – but don’t be afraid to set boundaries on visit-length and personal space.

2. Don’t spend so much time worrying about developmental milestones

Just relax and enjoy those early years. Try not to keep pushing for the next developmental leap forward. Spending endless amounts money on developmental toys, gadgets and flashcards will not make things happen any faster.

3. Make sure to look after yourself

Not just your baby but making time for self-care will enable you to parent in a much calmer and more effective way. You cannot pour from an empty cup. Make sure to build small self-care habits into your daily routine.

4. Make the effort to reach out and grow your ‘village’

The first few steps are always scary – but all the other new mums in your area are just as desperate for adult interaction as you are. Be brave and make the first move. If you can’t find a local mother and baby class that suits you, start your own one.

5. It's okay to do things your own way

The teachings of different tribes of parenting influencers can be both confusing and overwhelming. While some parents may follow attachment parenting, gentle parenting, natural parenting or montessori parenting to the letter, most parents out there are just getting by with what feels right to them, and for their child. There is no one-size-fits-all method of parenting.

6. Lower your expectations

Of yourself, of your child, and of everything. In the age of endless social media feeds and selfies, first time parents often feel immense pressure to do it all, have it all, and be perfect all the time. Take a breath, come back to the present moment, and think about what is actually important to you and your child right now. Everything else can wait. 

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To find out how much it costs to raise a child, please visit Reassured via www.reassured.co.uk/life-insurance/how-much-does-it-cost-to-raise-a-child-uk/

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