Belfast Telegraph

Baby has left me drained

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem

When I worked I was recognised as being competent and organised.

I only stopped work two weeks before my baby girl was born and I used to think that women who complained about life with a baby were wimps.

Yet three months later I am so tired, drained and exhausted. Some days I don’t even manage to get dressed.

I’m struggling to cope and I spend a lot of my time in floods of tears.

I’m beginning to think my baby would be better off without me and I’m also scared my partner will dump me unless I can pull myself together. CO


Many mums reading this will understand exactly how you feel.

Babies rarely respond to business-like routines, although, in time, you will feel more in control.

Explain to your partner how you feel and don't try to take on too much, too soon. I also think that you should talk to your doctor because it sounds as if you may be experiencing post-natal depression.

Don't dismiss this, because it's a very real condition that many mothers go through and treatment is available.

The Association for Post-Natal Illness ( gives support to women going through this distressing experience.

Contact them through their helpline, tel: 020 7386 0868. Advice is available Monday to Friday from 10am-2pm.

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