Daughter devastated by fiance split
My daughter’s fiance has just called off their engagement, saying he’s confused and unsure about what he really wants.
She’s devastated, especially as he says he still loves her. She’s suggested they get together to discuss things but he says he can’t face it at the moment.
He’s recently lost his dad and I think this may have something to do with it, but she can’t get him to talk.
How can I help her? She’s so unhappy. RM
FIONA SAYS: OFFER SUPPORT TO BOTH OF THEM
She needs your love and support and that's what you're obviously showing her.
He probably needs it too, but his reluctance to talk will make it difficult to get close to him.
A reluctance to make decisions and socialise are classic symptoms of grief, so you are almost certainly right that the loss of his dad is affecting him.
If your daughter gives him a bit of time while supporting him by phone, hopefully he will come to terms with his loss.
If not, then he might need help and you could do no better than steering him towards Cruse Bereavement Care.
Go to the website crusebereavementcare.org.uk or call the helpline, tel: 0844 477 9400.