Desperate for tummy tuck after having kids
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, My stomach is a mess after having our children so I can’t blame my husband for losing interest.
We never make love anymore because I won’t inflict my disgusting body on him. I desperately want a tummy tuck and think it’ll help save our marriage so could you advise me please on how to find the best surgeon?
Mother of Two, South Belfast
Dear Mother of Two,
Numerous individuals imagine that surgery automatically transforms lives and relationships so it’s vital to manage your expectations. Often people obsess about physical imperfections and hold them accountable for all their problems thinking, ‘If my stomach was flatter, everything would be perfect’, but this is unrealistic.
Low self-esteem, anxiety, depression and relationship issues are often responsible for discontent and focusing on physical idiosyncrasies prevents people from tackling their real problems. Surgery can’t save your marriage, only working with your husband and improving communication will help.
The most important credential for a surgeon is that they’re an accredited member of the British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons (BAAPS). I’ve witnessed some amazing tummy tucks done by highly-respected plastic surgeons in Northern Ireland. If you’re going private, the Fitzwilliam Clinic, Belfast, is among those offering this.