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Hate that she won’t trust me

Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems

Dear Fiona, I slept with other women while my wife and I were dating and she found out after we married a year ago.

I’ve been faithful since but she’s still suspicious and constantly doubts my loyalty.

There’s only so much I can take so when will she realise I’d never betray her as I take our marriage seriously?

Brian, Belfast

Dear Brian,

Infidelity cannot be smoothed over with promises to commit fully because once trust has been betrayed, it’s extremely difficult to rebuild.

Your wife is feeling vulnerable and undoubtedly she also feels foolish to have missed the signs when you betrayed her before so she’s being hyper-vigilant.

You can’t become impatient because her behaviour is a direct result of your indiscretions.

Forgiveness must be earned so unfortunately you just have to accept this as part of your punishment.

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