I can’t get a grip on shopping addiction
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, I’m in terrible debt but I can’t stop buying clothes as I love following fashion.
I grew up in a strict household and my mum dressed my two sisters and me almost identically in the same dull clothes or we would wear pass-me-downs from cousins.
Might this have something to do with my situation now?
Addictive shopping relieves underlying subconscious anxiety.
The natural high and sense of release you get from shopping is greater than your fear of being in debt, which is why you continue.
Your upbringing was regimented with little opportunity for individuality and so shopping is possibly your way of releasing the childhood identity that was suppressed.
Set yourself a weekly budget and stick to it and recognise that the needs of the repressed inner child are preventing you from living your life productively now.