Dear Fiona, I'm going to be a grandmother soon for the first time but I’m annoyed that my son’s wife is insisting that my grand-daughter is given the most ridiculous name I’ve ever heard in my life.
We’re not on good terms as it is so I can’t even tell you the name as she’ll know it’s me.
I already think she’s a headcase but this is the icing on the cake.
Should I tell her what I really think?
Worried, East Belfast
There's no accounting for some people’s taste and years ago I heard about one mother who wanted to call her daughter Pocahontas but the parish priest refused to comply.
Overtly criticising her choice of name could be seen as antagonistic and cause unnecessary hostility, giving her a reason to alienate you.
Maybe she’s only saying this because she knows it’s really annoying you and she finds that amusing.
It’s probably better to bite your tongue but if she’s determined, try telling your son what you think in a non-critical manner. At the end of the day, it’s their choice and unfortunately you’ll just have to live with whatever name they decide on.