I just can’t stand my own son
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona answers your problems
Dear Fiona, I’m a young, single mother and I really don’t like my two-year-old son.
He reminds me of his father who was a dirty, abusive low-life. He’s sneaky and manipulative too, like his father.
My daughter is an angel and I know I treat her differently but is my son too young to realise?
He is very attached to my sister and doesn’t seem too interested in me either.
Dear Ashamed Mother,
Young children are intuitively and acutely aware of what their parents feel towards them. If they don’t detect positive emotion, approval and unconditional love in their eyes, they’ll inevitably suffer from low self-esteem.
It’s highly likely that your son is conscious of your favouritism and so is seeking the love and affection from your sister that he isn’t getting from you.
There’s nothing underhanded or calculating about him as he’s an innocent child who shouldn’t suffer for the sins of his father.
Please get counselling to resolve your issues from your past relationship, to restore your self-esteem damaged by the abuse, and to repair your relationship with your son.