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I keep on sleeping with best male mate

Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems

Dear Fiona, I’ve been friends with a guy for around four years, in fact I now count him as my best friend.

He’s always there for me and I know he’d do anything for me.

However, a couple of times recently and after I’ve had too much to drink, I’ve slept with him as I don’t have a boyfriend at present and have a high sex drive.

I just think of him as a friend with benefits but do you think it’s wrong that I’m using him like this?


Dear Patricia,

You've answered your own question because when is it ever right to ‘use’ anyone?

He is your best friend but it’s possible he may have deeper feelings for you so you’re venturing into dangerous territory.

He’ll end up hurt and you’ll be without a ‘best friend’ should this relationship turn tawdry.

Should you decide to continue using him sexually, it’s important that he’s fully aware of where he stands so he’ll not become disappointed or resentful when your friendship doesn’t develop further.

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