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I still don't know if he's the one - seven years on

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

I have been living with my boyfriend for the past seven years and although I’m now 33 I can’t make my mind up about marrying him.

We haven’t got any real problems, except perhaps his business which means he travels a lot. Sometimes we don’t see each other for a couple of weeks at a time.

I know the reasons for this and can accept the situation even though I do miss him.

Our sex life is reasonable — not wonderful but reasonable — and we’ve discussed ways in which we can improve things, so we’re both prepared to work at it.

Everywhere I look there are old friends and relatives getting married and being positive about their futures together so why am I reluctant to take the plunge?

What’s wrong with me? RC


There's nothing wrong with you at all!

You've got some perfectly sensible doubts about what is among the most important decisions many people make.

In your case you need to look at them carefully in case there is a very real reason why you don't want to marry your boyfriend.

Would you really be satisfied with a “reasonable” sex life?

Are you really happy about seeing him so infrequently?

None of these problems are insurmountable but you should examine your feelings carefully before you marry him.

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