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Illness has knocked my confidence

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

I had a life-threatening illness two years ago and had to undergo major surgery.

Thankfully, this was a success and although it was touch and go for a few months, I am now on the mend.

However, this illness has completely drained away all my confidence.

It’s as much as I can do to drive my wife to the local shops these days.

I used to work as a building inspector, which was a highly demanding job that needed plenty of confidence to deal with people from all walks of life. My doctor said I should go back to something less physically demanding and although I’ve applied for several jobs, I don’t get anywhere.

In six months, I’ve had one interview but they said I was overqualified. I know jobs are hard to get these days, but really, what on earth is wrong with me? KL


I don't suppose there is anything wrong with you. The job market is certainly flat at the moment, but are you setting your sights too low?

Your doctor's suggestion and your own lack of confidence may mean you are applying for jobs well below your skill level.

You held down a demanding job and have the strength to overcome a debilitating illness — these are qualities that someone will recognise sooner or later.

Consider some sort of additional skills training; think about using a career adviser and take professional advice about your CV to help your future marketability.

Meanwhile, don't just sit back and do nothing. Find yourself a reasonably challenging volunteering role to keep your mind alert and help you back into a working environment.

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