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I've fallen out of love with my husband

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

My husband and I have three children, the youngest of whom is about to leave for university later this year.

My husband keeps telling me how much he’s looking forward to having more time together with just the two of us, but I’m dreading it.

For the past three or four years I’ve been feeling more and more indifferent to him and I just don’t think I love him any more.

He is so excited and making plans for things we can do together, while I am wondering whether I should tell him how I feel.

I’m seriously thinking of leaving him but I don't know how I would explain it. RV


The fact that you are so undecided makes me wonder if there is still a spark of feeling left for your husband. Rather than make plans to walk away, why not consider trying to rekindle the relationship?

Try to think about your first date and see if you can recreate it — then think of some of your other early dates and see if you can recreate them, too.

It may just remind you of how you felt about him in the beginning and I'm sure he'd love to play along.

If, after trying, and perhaps trying counselling too, you find there is still nothing left between you, that may be the time to think of separation.

Just don't give up on a relationship of such long standing without at least giving it a chance.

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