Belfast Telegraph

I’ve lost interest in making love with my husband

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

My partner and I used to have a great sex life, but over the past year we’ve gone off the boil.

Most of the time I’m just not interested in making an effort any more, and then at other times, I feel guilty for not being interested.

He’s being very patient but I can tell he’s finding it difficult.

I suppose I just feel as if I’m getting older and more tired and less interested physically, although mentally I still feel as if I want to.

What’s wrong with me? I think I need help. JB


Desire goes in phases for everyone and all kinds of things can affect it.

Have a check-up with your doctor to make sure there is nothing physically wrong, especially as you say you feel tired and old.

If there is no apparent reason for the way you feel and you think you need help, then the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT) can help.

COSRT sets and monitors standards for practitioners (such as Dr Pamela Stephenson-Connolly, the charity's new patron) and ensures members work professionally.

Talking to a therapist can help an individual or couple try to understand their sexual and/or relationship problems.

If you think this kind of help is for you, visit the COSRT website at

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