My boyfriend holidayed with another woman
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A few weeks ago my boyfriend went away on holiday without me.
I don’t have a problem with that because we’ve always agreed we would lead fairly independent lives so as not to get fed up with each other.
When he got back, though, I found out he had taken another woman with him.
He told me that there wasn’t anything to worry about as they were just friends and that nothing happened.
I don’t know whether to believe him, but I do know that I don’t feel like I can trust him.
Do you think I should stop seeing him? RR
FIONA SAYS: TALK FRANKLY ABOUT YOUR EXPECTATIONS
When you agreed to lead “fairly independent lives”, you should both have agreed what this meant.
Clearly, your expectations and his were very different. He seems to have interpreted it as the freedom to involve himself with other women.
You, on the other hand, expected a degree of fidelity.
Whether or not you want to continue the relationship will clearly depend on how you resolve this difference of opinion.
It's at a crossroads at the moment and you need to have a full and frank discussion about your needs and expectations — and his.