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My wife-to-be and daughter are too close

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

My wife died five years ago, leaving me to bring up my daughter alone.

She is now 12 and I am about to marry a woman who is only 30 — closer in age to her than I am.

They both get on really well — and, believe it or not, that’s my problem.

I feel left out by the way they are when they get together.

It sometimes feels like she’s marrying me for my daughter rather than for myself. TC


Your wife-to-be has obviously recognised how important it is to build a good relationship with your daughter.

Equally, your daughter is probably enjoying a female relationship that, without a mum of her own, she has missed.

Have you tried telling them that you feel left out?

I'm sure they are not deliberately excluding you, and while I would certainly not suggest you accompany them on shopping trips etc, there must be things you can do together.

Isn't it time you thought in terms of family outings?

After all, that's what you're going to be soon — a father, mother and child.

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