My daughter got married at the end of last year and since then, I don’t think I’ve seen her more than half a dozen times.
She says that what with working full-time and with the housework etc, she just doesn’t have time to get to see me very often.
If they’re working long hours the house can’t be getting very dirty, so I don’t understand why they can’t visit me more often. I can’t understand her attitude especially in these trying times when families need to stick together.
I’d never have treated my mother like this because I know she would have been terribly hurt.
Why are they avoiding me? JV
FIONA SAYS: SHE’S BUILDING A NEW LIFE
Life today when you are a new bride is very different. There are so many very different pressures — to succeed in work, for example, as well as financial issues.
Furthermore, I'm sure your daughter isn't deliberately avoiding you. If she's seen you six times since the wedding, that's got to be around once a month.
She's a new wife, building a new home, working hard and relaxing when she can — in short, building a new life.
She and her husband may well be preoccupied with each other and probably don't have a lot of emotional space for anything but each other right now.
If you give them both a bit of space now, I'm sure they'll soon be seeing you more regularly. Simply let them know that you're there if they need you, then fill the temporary gap they've left with more time spent on your own interests.