Pal hangs out with thug who raped me
Northern Ireland's number one agony aunt Fiona Hurley answers your problems
Dear Fiona, Last year a male friend took me to his formal. I went to his house for a taxi home and thought he was joking at first but he forced me to have sex.
I told my best friend and began to feel suicidal but I got counselling.
Everyone loves this guy and he’s extremely popular but my friend swore she’d have nothing more to do with him.
Recently another friend was showing me photos my best friend had posted on her Facebook.
She was with him at his house parties.
She’s a compulsive liar and I’ve always overlooked it but I can’t believe she blocked me from seeing them.
She showed sympathy when I told her so I don’t know why she’s done this.
Completely terminating their friendship is the minimum you should have expected from her so she has failed you miserably.
She ‘should’ be incensed and heartbroken that you were driven to such a place of desperation that you considered suicide.
She ‘should’ be disgusted and incapable of interacting civilly with him, never mind partying and sharing cyber-chat.
Sometimes self-serving or weak individuals can’t deal with the repercussions of accepting the truth of a situation and so denial or avoidance are the painless options.
Perhaps it was too socially inconvenient for her to cut off contact? Compulsive lying indicates an inferiority complex and chronically low self-esteem so her ego might have been affected by losing such a socially beneficial friend.
You’re now stronger following counselling so please just remove these toxic people from your life.
She has lost a loyal friend and gained a sex offender so who should be pitying whom now?