Belfast Telegraph

Scared to move back home

Fiona Caine is here to help if you have a relationship, sexual, marriage or family problem.

I left home to live with my boyfriend six months ago, against the advice of my parents. They don’t like him and they said at the time that I shouldn’t expect to just come home when it all fell down around my ears.

Of course, at the time I didn’t care. I thought I was in love — but that was before I realised I’d moved in with an aggressive, selfish man.

He spends most of his time and money out with his mates and expects me to do all the cleaning and cooking, as well as pay all the bills. On top of this he expects me to be available for sex on demand even if I’m late for work, and the first time I refused we had a furious fight.

Since then, I’ve been too scared and now all I want to do is go back to my parents.

The problem is that I'm sure my father won’t even speak to me, let alone let me come home. I feel so stupid and trapped and I don't know where to turn. RA


If your parents knew what you were going through I am sure they would want you to come home, however angry they were with you.

Pick up the phone, tell them you've made a terrible mistake and ask if you can come back. You have nothing to lose by trying, except perhaps a little pride.

You may have to cope with some “I told you so” attitude, but hopefully this won't last too long.

If your parents are still angry with you and refuse to allow you to return home, then you still shouldn't stay where you are.

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