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What's wrong with our love life?

I have been married for nearly 30 years and I always thought everything was fine between my husband and I.

He asked me to take one of his suits to the cleaners and I was just checking the pockets when I came across a postcard with a sex chat-line number on it.

I don’t know how to approach him about it or even whether I should.

We still sleep together but we don’t have sex very often now and I don’t really know why. He has never spoken about it and we have both just carried on as if everything was normal.

Clearly something has gone wrong, but how can I find out what the problem is?


It would be perfectly natural if you wanted to confront him with the evidence and ask for an explanation.

Of course, you don't know how your husband came by this number; it might have been someone's idea of a joke

The chances are that unless he admits it you will never really know for sure so while your sex life has become a little infrequent, don't take this as evidence.

Rather than fretting, try to inject some sparkle back into your relationship — you still sleep together so why not take the initiative more often?

I appreciate that it is hard to talk about sex if you have never done so before, but it is well worth a try.

And if you want your marriage to continue to be a success, you each have to know how the other is feeling.

Belfast Telegraph