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So, why do small men get the short shrift?

By Charlotte Gill

Maybe it's because I'm five foot one. Maybe it's because I think Napoleon seemed kind of cool, or maybe it's because I'm a bit soppy, but I can't help feeling sorry for short men. And I want to make a stand for them.

Because something strange and unacceptable in our culture has happened where women think it's okay to publicly slate their petite counterparts, and dismiss them romantically, based on their height.

If you don't believe me, you need only look at the statistics. Data compiled by OK Cupid shows that being a shorter man is considerably less advantageous in the dating world. As a result, he is often lying on online profiles - adding a couple of inches here and there to impress the ladies.

From personal experience, I have seen how brutal women can be about shorter blokes. This sentiment is now reflected on dating apps such as Tinder, where women's profiles often include height requirements.

Over the years, the sisterhood has become incredibly shallow when it comes to men's stature - convinced that we have some entitlement to Thor-like creatures. In fact, many of my friends will now dismiss guys on dates with no other reason than they were "too short".

For a man to openly reject a woman because he found her fat would be social suicide. Yet for women to complain about a man's height is fine, apparently.

It's not really okay, though, is it? Not any more than telling your friends you dismissed someone because they had black hair, or small boobs, or anything else that is, undeniably, genetics. And that is not that big a deal.

Some of the cleverest, most determined, interesting and handsome guys I know are short. And girls who cannot see that openly dismissing someone because of their height is, at best, plain rude.

Of course, we all have our personal preferences when it comes to dating. These may focus on height, weight, or even teeth (I've got a thing for chompers with a gap in the middle, would you believe.)

But the thing is that they are just that - personal.

Everyone in their right mind would judge a man for telling everyone he would never date a fat woman - and probably have a massive go at him.

If guys can learn not to fat-shame, surely we can learn not to short-shame either.

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