The most powerful moment on local airwaves this week was when Rev Cheryl Meban became emotional talking about the murder of Sarah Everard and the ensuing public conversation about women's safety and sexual harassment in general.
Many listening at home to her Thought for the Day contribution on Good Morning Ulster instantly identified with how utterly exhausted she felt by it all.
"We're blamed for what we wear, we're blamed for where we go and what we do," she said, summing up the feelings of most women.
Her comments followed the furore which accompanied the extraordinary scenes at the women's vigil for Sarah last Saturday night in London, when Met officers appeared so heavy-handed in their treatment of those staging a quiet memorial.
And there's also been the inevitable kickback. When women shared their experiences of living in fear on social media, there were suggestions that many were taking advantage of a very rare murder to make themselves victims by proxy, as if they were revelling in the chance to put themselves in the spotlight.
But - and here's the unpalatable truth - many women day and daily are victims of varying degrees of aggressive behaviour, of over-stepped boundaries, of sleazy innuendo with an underlying menace.
This is not just something in women's heads. It's a series of calibrations so routine they're often done unconsciously now.
One defining feature of being a woman is that extra calculation we all make when planning to do anything or go anywhere. How safe will I be? Who knows where I am? Who will raise the alarm if I don't arrive? Who can I ring between the train and car? These are simply issues which don't bother men.
Some will downplay it all as rather far-fetched - and, yes, we all know many men do not behave in disgusting and threatening ways. Others will counter that it's just a wolf-whistle, harmless banter, a back-handed compliment. Lost your sense of humour, love? If only. Like many women, I could provide a long list of incidents, stretching back decades to when I was a teenager and ranging from the unpleasant to the downright disturbing. Encounters walking home from school, while working, when out and about, on trains, in pubs and restaurants, parks.
And then of course in more recent times we've had to navigate the badly-lit back streets and sewers of the online world.
That's often a more complex arena because the sexism, misogyny and menace is not just about leering, but also about control. If they can put you in your place and humiliate you enough, maybe they'll manage to shut you up for good.
For decades we listened to platitudes about getting more women into politics here, but the reality is it's probably harder than ever now. Just take a look at the online abuse that rains down on Northern Ireland's three female party leaders, Arlene Foster, Michelle O'Neill and Naomi Long.
A business-like tweet about economic development or education can lead to a timeline awash with vile comments. It's a free-for-all - the venom and vitriol piles on attacking their (to be euphemistic) appearance, character, morals. Threats, usually of sexual violence, are commonplace.
Recently Mrs Foster said she believed "online lynch mobs" were being controlled by "dark forces" to target female public figures here. "The biggest obstacle to being a woman in public life today is the constant stream of commentary on your appearance," she said.
In other words, it is thought a reasonable strategy to have gangs of internet trolls primed to hound individual women, with gender-based hate speech, because that is somehow licensed by having different political views, or because a woman is a journalist or appears on TV or is related to someone the trolls don't like.
And then there's the most horrifying instances of this of all, when women who are victims, whether of sexual abuse or terrorism, are brutalised all over again by those who want them silenced.
Perhaps it's the fact these women have already survived so much that gives them the sheer courage to keep telling their stories, fighting for justice, even if they sometimes have to pull up the internet drawbridge to stem the tide of filth.
Indeed, so deeply ingrained is our public misogyny that depressingly a minority of women avail of that weapon too.
It's difficult to analyse why there has been this upsurge in sexual bullying. Conservatives talk about the breakdown of standards in morals while liberals complain of an ingrained sexist society. Add to that the fact hardcore pornography is freely available 24/7 to even the most emotionally stunted individuals and you have a perfect storm for the tolerance of abusive behaviour.
But that doesn't mean we should be doing nothing.
There are practical steps that should be taken. We talk about revitalising our city and town centres once lockdown is over. One thing that would make a difference is making sure women can walk safely from shops to cars or houses without fearing they're going to be belittled or attacked. That means everything from better lighting to more thought as to where car parks are.
We have to stop the lazy tolerance of low-level harassment. Why should some bloke be able to holler "nice t*ts" at a mum coming out of a supermarket on her way home from work? Because it's not trivial. Women find it traumatising and demeaning.
Legislating for all of that will be complicated but that shouldn't prevent us trying to make society safer and better for everyone. Much - though not all - of the online abuse is by trolls. Why should people be able to hide behind anonymity, like a skulker in a hoodie who just happens to be walking very closely behind you the whole way home?
Men should learn to leave women alone as they go about their normal business. If a woman is afraid that you're a creep, then that's because you are one. Women know when they're being chatted up by a decent, ordinary man and when they're in the presence of a sleazebag.
Something has to change and it has to involve legislation. This is a small geographical area; it is a small population. It should be possible to source solutions to this persistent aggression in the here and now and not be brushed off with the usual "daddy of all mansplaining" excuse - it's a societal problem love, it's all about the schools.
Well, I don't want to wait any longer, thanks; or have those who are young girls now wait yet another lifetime to discover that nothing at all has been done, in the schools or in the home and least of all in the streets. After all, if we can legislate with signs and fines and wardens for dog fouling and parking, surely we can legislate to make women feel safer too?
We cannot afford to raise another generation of frightened women.