Ruth Dudley Edwards: Orange Order in Ireland should now get in step with Scottish brethren and end archaic ban
Many lodge members already attend funerals and weddings in Roman Catholic churches, writes Ruth Dudley Edwards
Last week the Grand Orange Lodge of Scotland at last got round to lifting the ban on its members entering Roman Catholic churches. Now, let's get the terminology right. In Ireland, calling Roman Catholics 'Roman Catholics' rather than Irish Catholics or just Catholics is regarded as an insult by many who are both historically ignorant and keen to be offended.
The late Sean O'Callaghan wrote in his memoir The Informer about the first time he saw Ian Paisley on television.
"When he referred to 'Roman Catholics' my friends and I looked at each other in bewilderment: 'We are not Italians' one of them said."
This of course is mystifying for the many Protestants who rightly consider themselves Catholics.
People who believe their Church has evolved from the ancient Christian church are Catholics. They include Anglicans, several other Protestant sects and Orthodox Eastern churches, as well as those who acknowledge the Pope as head of the Church and have therefore historically been known as Roman Catholics.
The Orange Order declares itself to "stand for the true Catholic Faith and we deny any church the right to make exclusive claims thereto".
And quite right, too.
Unfortunately, because Rome has always insisted it had exclusive rights to the term Catholic, this is what went into the psyche of Irish Roman Catholicism, so Roman Catholic nationalists are affronted by being referred to by their correct name.
The same applies to the name of the Irish state, which has been a rich source of unreasonable offence-taking.
The 1937 constitution Taoiseach Eamon de Valera carefully crafted for what was The Irish Free State specifically said "the name of the State is Eire, or, in the English language, Ireland".
De Valera was in fact brazenly laying claim to the whole island, which justifiably outraged unionists and caused endless problems for foreign diplomats and politicians.
In many ways it was a relief when in 1948 the Irish Government announced it was a republic and declared that "the description of the State shall be the Republic of Ireland" - a description Prime Minister Clement Attlee told his Cabinet would bring an end to "the 'inconveniences and indignities' which we now experience as a result of our present policy of insisting on the title 'Eire' as against Dublin's preference for 'Ireland'".
I grew up in Dublin, where it was and still is felt that anyone English or unionist who calls the country Eire is being deliberately offensive, even though it's on the stamp.
As David Trimble pointed out in his Nobel Prize lecture, "the tradition from which I come… puts a great price on the precise use of words, and uses them with circumspection, so much so that our passion for precision is often confused with an indifference to idealism".
Well, no one ever levelled such an accusation against the tradition from which I come.
But back to the Scottish Grand Lodge, which has finally caught up with reality, for many of its rank-and-file attend their Roman Catholic friends' and neighbours' weddings and funerals.
As they do in Ireland.
In 1998, after the Omagh bomb, First Minister Trimble, then the Orange Order's most famous member, attended the funeral in Buncrana of three Roman Catholic children, where he was applauded. There were some mutterings among the bigots, but no action was taken against him.
In 2011 there were a few complaints against Ulster Unionist leader Tom Elliott and his party colleague Danny Kennedy after they attended the funeral of murdered Catholic police officer Ronan Kerr, but again they came to nothing.
The Reverend Brian Kennaway, author of The Orange Order: A Tradition Betrayed, points out that in the 18th century the institution's second grand secretary was married to a Roman Catholic and that the prohibition is directed at political opinions, not religion.
I have many friends in the Orange Order who are pro-Protestant, not anti-Catholic, but its greatest fans couldn't claim it is swift to embrace change, though compared to its Irish equivalent, Scots are headstrong reformers.
But I live in hope that the Grand Lodge of Ireland will catch up with Scotland in my lifetime.