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Same-sex marriage is a threat to family as we know it, and could open the floodgates to yet more demands

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I fear that Dr Fergus Ryan's attempt to say that "same-sex marriage... goes to the heart of tradition and family" is disingenuous (Saturday Review, August 6).

What it does is knock another nail in the coffin of the traditional understanding of the family down the ages as consisting of a husband and wife, and the children they procreate in most cases.

Of course, not all married couples produce children, for various reasons, and, of course, not all marriages turn out to be happy ones.

But the heart of the matter is that heterosexual marriage has for millennia been the overarching centre of a stable society.

The breakdown of so many marriages in the last 40-50 years, and the acceptance of cohabitation with its much greater risk of break-up, has contributed to a generation of young men growing up with no father figure to look to for a role model.

And, though governments have realised this, they have been unwilling, in the name of diversity and tolerance, to take proper steps to counter it.

Same-sex "marriage" does not help this, especially when children are involved, as they are being used as part of a new social experiment which involves a child being deliberately deprived of a parent of the opposite sex.

The research quoted in the article has only looked at part of the picture, but a recent study has begun to show that, though same-sex reared children were happy when younger, on reaching adolescence and adulthood there is a big increase in depression and elevated results also for obesity, suicide and anxiety.

I can understand the wishes of gay people to be married, but I cannot agree with Dr Ryan's statement that life will proceed as normal if same-sex marriage goes ahead, as it cannot be marriage in the true sense of the word - no matter how loving.

What I am sure of, however, is that, if it goes ahead in this province, it will still not be enough. For, once the meaning of marriage is changed, who is to stop it being changed again - whether to include three, or four, persons of either sex (as is being pushed in North America already), or marriage to under-age children (which is also being mooted)?


Tandragee, Co Armagh

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