Your problem is you're good-looking.
This was the verdict offered to Lee 'The Golden Child' Feeney by his uncle, Warren Feeney Snr, when reflecting on what might have been.
Former Linfield and Rangers star Feeney was this week appointed manager of Premier Intermediate League club Bangor, with long-standing friend and fellow former Ger John Douglas coming in as his No 2.
His brief is to get the fallen Co Down club back up into the Championship, with a berth in the Premiership the ultimate goal.
It is a challenge Feeney is relishing and he insists he has the tools to be successful in management because of the experiences he had as a player.
He took the Irish League by storm in the second of his three stints with Linfield, earning a £100,000 dream move to Ibrox when Dick Advocaat signed him in 1998.
It would not be unfair to say that the bright lights of Glasgow and the distractions that shadow successful professional footballers took their toll on what promised to be a glittering career, with Feeney returning to Windsor Park for an unsuccessful short spell in 2002.
A noted bon viveur who was no stranger to nightclubs, Feeney was comparable to the great George Best; blessed with unbounded natural ability and good looks and as popular with the ladies as he was with fans.
"Yeah, that's what my uncle told me", chuckles Feeney. "'Your problem is you're good looking'.'
"When I was younger, I spent a lot of my time out chasing women - and women come as part of the package as a footballer, that's the truth of it.
"If I was advising young players now in the same position I was, I would say, 'Be a good footballer and everything else will take care of itself'.
"I know I didn't fulfil my talent. I know I was a failure and it was all my own fault. I realise that looking back because I lost my hunger for the game. When I look back, the one thing that really hurts the most was going back to Linfield after Rangers.
"I know I let myself, the club, David Jeffrey and my team-mates - players like Glenn Ferguson, Winkie Murphy and Noel Bailie - down.
"They expected big things from me on my return from Glasgow, but I let them down, especially Davy, who I am very close to now. I broke his heart.
"I could have won so many trophies with that team looking back, but I had to leave the club. I just had to.
"I had loads of ability and I relied on my natural talent and ability, but that only takes you so far.
"I saw players with half my ability doing better than me and that hurt."
Feeney hails from a footballing dynasty - his cousin Warren, uncle Warren Snr and great uncle Jimmy Feeney all played for Northern Ireland and his brother Cullen enjoyed a successful career with Portadown and Glentoran, amongst other clubs.
Lee grew up in Kilkeel, did not play organised football until he was 15 and made his debut for the Blues just a couple of years later.
"I was with the Under-16s, but Trevor Anderson gave me my debut when I was 16, I think. It was against Glentoran. I came off the bench, but the match was abandoned due to bad weather. I actually left Linfield to join Ards to play more football, but I returned to Linfield, did well and then Rangers came in for me.
"That was an unbelievable experience. I was there with Ryan McCann, Darren Fitzgerald and Paul McKnight. We were the Ulster lads. Dougie was there at a different time.
"I started well, played in a few pre-season friendlies in Florida and was going well until I suffered a calf muscle injury that kept me out for a couple of months.
"That's when I started losing my hunger. Football didn't seem as important to me any more and I make no excuses but, in hindsight, I think Rangers could have offered more guidance.
"I came from the country to a lively city and it's one thing I learned and will take into management; look out for young players who might need guidance, as I needed guidance.
"Settling down helped me. I have two children and am due to get married next year. My oldest is 10 and I started really enjoying football again around the same time, so that tells you something.
"Age and maturity made me appreciate football again after I turned 30. I started to really enjoy training and I got the winning mentality back.
"I became competitive again and it was like back to being a young fella; I could keep a beach ball off guys in a telephone box!
"If I take anything into management, it will be to look out for players who might be starting to fail, as I did, and take steps to correct it.
"I had agreed to go to Banbridge Rangers when Bangor approached me and they couldn't have been more decent with me.
"We had a meeting and they asked me some searching questions and I had some questions for them about the club. It was very open, no holds barred. Everything on the table and it was very productive.
"The club has had difficulties in the past, but they assured me all was well, that they now own the club outright and it is financially stable.
"I will be working with the squad I have and I am looking forward to it. Dougie and I complement each other and for me man management is key.
"I have had many managers in my career and I have served my apprenticeship at Ards with Warren and various amateur clubs. It's a brilliant club and I'm ready for the challenge."